Sad news

Jamie, I was shocked when I read this.  I knew Gene and have thought of him  and wondered where and how he was doing.  I can say the little amount of time I spent with him I cared for him as a person and as a brother-in-law but always wanted the best for you and your syblings and mother.  I appreciate you sharing your feelings at this time.  It means a lot to me that you were willing to share them and I so agree with the wonderful expression of thanks.  My sympathies to all concerned. 

Sorry about the sad news and condolences on the loss of your father. No matter what your relationship with him, it must be hard to know that he's no longer here.

Very sorry to hear Jamie.  My sympathies to all of you.

My thoughts are with you.  I love you, sweet Jamie.

Eloquently written, Jamie.  Life is complex and never fair.  You sound like you are well on your way to understanding, and to coming to terms with this next curve ball life has thrown your way.  We love you, Ben and Jennifer, and our thoughts and prayers are with you.  When all else fails, hug that sweet little baby of yours, and things will feel a little better.

Your writing is inspiring Jamie. I didn't know your dad, but Uncle Tim did and he checked his own mortality when he heard the news. I am sure that your dad had his own demons and didn't handle them well. You are right about our wonderful family and if there is anything we can do please lets us know. You're loved by many and I know your love for your dad is complex, but loving in this family is easy. Take care and you're in my prayers.

Jamie, Jennifer & Benjamin:

Aunt Cheryl and I are saddened by this news.  We too add our love and prayers to those of other members of the family.  We wish we could give you each a hug to express our love for each of you. 

very sad.  i often tell people around me how huge my family is, and how great they all are, even with the huge variations in challenges we've all had.

Jamie, so beautifully written.  I'm sorry that your father missed knowing this side of you.  Anything you need, let us know. 

Sorry Jamie, Jennifer and Ben.  I think you are all great people and I'm glad you're my cousins!  If there's anything Michelle and I can do, let us know.

Our condolences.  Clark & Dawn

We were truly saddened when we heard of your loss.  Of course we knew Gene when he was a young man and can't only think of what a loss.  He did have a loving personality to both of us and such potential that was all thrown away by his addictions. It is very sad that you were never able to have a true parent child relationship with him.  I too feel that what you wrote Jamie was a true example of your English Teacher ability showing it's best.  We are so happy that you are going to have Alyssa as a student this year.  I know she will gain a great deal as we have had the opportunity to talk with some of your former students and they surely sang your praises as a teacher and the fine person that you are. 

Very, very sad.  Especially that Gene never truly got to experience the joy that one can fell as a father who is involved in the lives of his kids and gets to be a part of that awesome responsibility.  However, that situation allowed me to help raise you, Jennifer and Ben -- relationships that mean so much to me.

Sorry for the loss, but thanks for sharing.

Jen, I am amazed at how succinctly you described your feelings during this difficult time. My grandfather was an alcoholic and as a result, I had a distant, formal relationship with him. When he was drunk, he treated my mom horribly, but when he wasn't under the influence, he was a smart, mild-mannered little Greek man who was an amazing architectural photographer and cook. When he passed away earlier this year, I felt a lot of sadness and regret that his addiction kept us from being close. I can't imagine how much harder it is to deal with the loss of your father. We are praying for you, Jennifer, and Ben.

thank you Sarah - it was actually Jamie that wrote this. she has an amazing way with words to be sure.

i can't speak for my other siblings, but i am saddened by his early passing. in truth, i hardly knew the man. he could never beat the demons that haunted him all his short life. my greatest regret about our "relationship" was that he couldn't or wouldn't come to know my children. his inability to be a proper father to me and my siblings, reinforces my desire to be the best parent i can to my children. so that is what i take away from his passing. an intense desire to put my kids first.....

A great lesson.

Sorry! I mean to say Jamie! I'm guessing I wrote that comment late at night when my brain wasn't feeling so sharp. And I haven't been on TF in a week so now I'm slow in responding...